Ejaculate Responsibly Book Event

Join author Gabrielle Blair and Caissie St. Onge in a discussion surrounding Blair’s best selling book, Ejaculate Responsibly: A Whole New Way to Think About Abortion. Blair’s book moves away from controlling and legislating women’s bodies and instead directs the focus on men.

About Gabrielle Blair and the book

When Gabrielle Blair—founder of the blog Design Mom and a Mormon mother of six—published Ejaculate Responsibly: A Whole New Way to Think About Abortion in October 2022, the book became an instant New York Times bestseller and sparked a provocative new reframing of the abortion discussion. In a post-Roe world where the abortion debate resides in an irresolvable ideological divide, why haven’t we shifted the conversation to the singular source of unwanted pregnancy: semen?

The book–based on Blair’s 2018 viral tweet positing that “men are 100% responsible for unwanted pregnancies”– has a simple, revolutionary approach: Ejaculate Responsibly demands that men share contraceptive responsibility and become active participants in conversations around birth control. This could be in the form of getting a vasectomy (99.9% effective and reversible), using condoms and challenging the sexist pedagogy and judgment that surrounds their usage, and/or teaching men to pull out effectively.

In a series of 28 brief yet utterly convincing arguments, Blair deftly makes the case for moving the abortion debate away from controlling and legislating female bodies and on to men’s lack of accountability in preventing unwanted pregnancies.

Exploring power dynamics, presenting new research, and unearthing the sexism at the center of birth control, Ejaculate Responsibly offers a case for rectifying misplaced accountability on women’s bodies and a call for men to become active participants when it comes to preventing unwanted pregnancies.

Gabrielle Stanley Blair is the founder of Alt Summit, the blockbuster biannual conference for lifestyle bloggers and creative entrepreneurs, currently in its twelfth year. She is also the founder of DesignMom.com. Started in 2006, it has been named a Website of the Year by Time magazine, praised as a top parenting blog by The Wall Street Journal, Parents, and Better Homes & Gardens, and won the Iris Award for Blog of the Year. Her first book, Design Mom: How to Live with Kids, a New York Times bestseller, was published in 2015 by Artisan. On her website, Gabrielle covers the intersection of design and parenting, with thoughtful posts on topics like how to talk to your kids about sex, family travel, food kids will really eat, political issues, and family-friendly design. Gabrielle and her husband, Ben Blair, have six children—Ralph, Maude, Olive, Oscar, Betty, and Flora June. Her family divides their time between the United States and France. 

About Caissie St. Onge

Caissie St.Onge is a television writer, producer and showrunner known for her work on The Late Show with David Letterman, The Rosie O’Donnell Show, the original Best Week Ever, The Graham Norton Effect, Watch What Happens Live! With Andy Cohen, and Busy Tonight, which she executive produced with Busy Philipps and Tina Fey. She’s also served as a longtime comedy writer for some legit legends, including Joan Rivers and Bette Midler.

When not creating for the screen, Caissie has ghostwritten a number of celebrity memoirs, which she can’t contractually ever name, as well as a YA novel about teen vampires.

Since 2020, Caissie has co-hosted and produced the popular podcast Busy Philipps is Doing Her Best with her creative partner, Busy Philipps.